Previously, everything was simple. Decent women had sex with their husbands on duty. It was called: "conjugal duty". To carry out its supposed to mournfully pursed lips, as do any other necessary and even socially important, but very unpleasant business, for example, pay taxes.
Women are not very honest at times dared to do it for love, calling for a barrage of hatred on the part of respectable fear for the moral strength of his pious foundations, as well as from those of men who could not imagine myself in the role of objects of love.
Finally, there were women who had sex for money. Their existence in polite society was not supposed to mention. However, they suffered, because a prostitute for the family hearth is less dangerous than a mistress.
Then the Victorian notions of decency had been shaken, and it turned out that the motives that govern us when we receive the horizontal (or some suitable for amorous pleasures) the situation is very, very diverse. So diverse that we do not always even aware of: why, actually, we drifted into bed? And keep this in mind it would be useful - and not just to satisfy the craving for knowledge of the world, but in order to avoid breaking anything during the affair and after it.
Not a complete list of non-obvious, but quite common motives for sex looks like.
Motif 1. Lust
Men and cats
Owners of non-castrated cats is well known that pheromones are not always fragrant with roses and jasmine. On the other hand, pheromones are not "obliged" to stink just unbearable, like a cat tag. Very often we are not even aware that chuem smell of human rights and respond to him, he is so weak that he did not "penetrate" the sphere of consciousness, but still perfectly copes with its task.
People with increased activity of the glands that produce pheromones, can not drown out the smell or shower twice a day, or deodorants and perfumes. So in a humorous proverb according to which man should be "angry, smelly and hairy" there is some truth - at least for part of the "stinking".
Pheromones - chemical external secretion, providing communication between the individuals of one species, primarily through scent. Pheromones are different. The most famous of them - sexual attractants: male and female find out whether they are suited to each other for mating, it is by smell.
There are pheromones in fact, or is another invention of cheap fame hungry researchers and avid for sensation newspaperman?
Scientists have proven that they exist, and they, like, someone even saw under the microscope. I, at least, believe in them - because how else to explain a sudden fit of lust flared up to a totally uninteresting in all other respects, but what happens, and unpleasant person? Yes, moreover, such a force fit, as in the hot stuff - as much reduces the cheekbones.
If you do not pheromones are cute, and you prefer metaphysics to explain the condition, as you like: aura, omens ... yes, even hypnosis! The fact is: sometimes it happens that the man is a strong desire to immediately have sex with him - and nothing more. Do not need no sweets, no bouquets, or under the crown, or a joint mortgage.
What to do?
If the version with pheromones taken for working, and if for some reason, the proximity to this man for you is not desirable - just otsyadte away from him. Or even better - in general, avoid personal meetings. Obsesion as arm lift. If adventure is not precluded - why not? Sex is almost certain to be wonderfully good, even if "objectively" the object of desire rather mediocre lover.
Motive 2. Vanity
Women tend to a successful and famous people like moths to light. Sometimes - with the same disappointing result, but most of all the ends tickling vanity little adventure. Nice to show off in front of her friends, casually mentioning that such a preferred scrambled eggs for breakfast, and that snores in his sleep.
Another good to know how many rivals managed to avoid in the struggle for access to the body of a celebrity. However, it can turn and embarrassment. Imagine this: social events, you come to the "star" who once visit your bed (in anticipation as you are with him gently rastseluetes, and how all of your companions will envy you) - but he simply did not know you: little Does Brazil these don Pedro ...
What to do?
Path to the heart of the famous never lies in bed, there he is too crowded to distinguish one from another fan. So if your heart suddenly interested in - look for bypass roads. Well, to replenish their dong-zhuansky list of recognizable names, just to brag about them from time to time, there is no great sin. But please, never and do not tell anybody about their lovers filth. This applies not only to celebrities.
Motive 3. Athletic interest
Oh, he is reputed to be impregnable? Come on, Come on, let's see, what is this inaccessibility. And you begin a systematic long siege. Make eyes, as if by accident, stumbles when he walks by, shtudiruete sites of Speleology, which he dedicates every vacation, to support in the event of an interesting conversation to his theme ... In general, I do not teach you. And not that he too was you need, just want to once again confirm the power of his love spell.
What to do?
First: are you sure that you really want that to happen, when and if he succumb? If not - maybe it's better for me is sitting in their caves? Secondly, please remember: husbands girlfriends - absolutely the wrong site for your sporting interest.
Motive 4. Collecting
The desire to sleep with a nigger with a disability, with old or very young boys with a gay man, the priest, with a yogi or a bodybuilder is like the desire to scratch "Vasya was here" on every little bit a suitable surface. This is understandable and not something that is reprehensible, but sometimes ... once slovenly.
What to do?
Exotic lover may well itself be a stimulating factor, and then - no problem. But if you suffer an unpleasant person in the bed only in the name of a strange idea that in this life have to try it ... let me, who do you want? You? Why?
Motive 5. Pity
In fact, pity can be different. Pity for the man in distress, the experiencer is not very rosy period in the life - one. Pity for the man miserable and pointless - quite another. That's me to the fact that sleep out of pity can be very different. You can support the fallen spirit of man, to help him regain interest in life and strength to cope with the trouble - and you can humiliate and trample. The man, whose pity, weak and totally in your hands. Incidentally, some of this then do not forgive.
What to do?
You are not Mother Teresa. You are not obliged to give shelter to the soft breasts of anyone who lives cracked. On the other hand, they say, from good deeds karma improves. Unless, of course, you'll have to do this is with kindness.
Motive 6. Hate
What is common between ethology (the science of the instinctive behavior of animals), Freud and the movie "Basic Instinct"? Right: the inextricable relationship of libido and thanatos, sexuality and aggression. And no wonder, not only in the fact that love, alas, often degenerates into hatred, but, conversely, anger, rage and revenge can suddenly turn into a powerful sexual flash.
What to do?
If you are not sure that will prevail in a bed fight, better refrain from such a radical way of explanation of the relationship - otherwise, then you will feel raped. And, of course, you should not marry him only to poison his whole life.
Motif 7. Indifference
"I do not mind, but he was pleased", "easier to give than to explain why you do not want," with a friend of the opposite sex better have sex once or twice, then to not be ashamed of each other in the details. Familiar, does not it?
What to do?
Sex - is an area in which Newton's third law (force is equal and opposite action) operates smoothly: that investing is what you get. If you are lazy and graciously allowed to have sex with him, and all your participation lay in the fact that not resist - a claim to the quality of sex (as it will be pale and miserable) Supplies are not cavalier, and herself.
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Concluding a short overview of the motives which prompt us to make love, go back to the very beginning: that there is a debt, money and love? It is very simple. Sex on duty in this enlightened age, fortunately, no longer exists, and forced sex is rape and is punishable by a long spell in gaol. Greed entirely left to your conscience. And love ... About love to write poetry, but not helpful advice, especially when outside such a wonderful, wild spring ...
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